Stop feeling guilty
When a child suffers from poor mental well-being, many parents tend to blame themselves and feel guilty. Remember that you are good enough and that you are doing your best. When you prioritise your own well-being, you actually help your child much more than you know.
It is the same as with oxygen masks on an aircraft; you need to put on your own mask before helping your children. If you lack energy and peace of mind, you will not be able to help your child properly, so make sure you hold on to the breathing spaces that boost your energy in your everyday life.
Whether it is a jog, a cooking class, a winter swim or something completely different.
You are doing a better job than you might think
Your guilty conscience does not help anyone. On the contrary, your anxiety and worry may intensify your child’s negative behaviour. Remember that you are doing your best – what more can anyone ask of you?
The most important thing is attentiveness
Spending time with your child does not always have to involve home-baked bread or trips to amusement parks. Everyday activities, such as grocery shopping or other daily routines, also count as quality time.
You can still ask your child to pitch in
A child suffering from poor mental well-being does not necessarily get better by being excused from doing their share of daily chores. On the contrary, being expected to do so may give the child a sense of being an indispensable part of the family unit. Although it may be a fight, you will benefit from insisting on your child keeping agreements and doing their daily chores.
Try to maintain your everyday life
It is best for both you and your child to maintain your everyday life. Share your concerns with your employer, so that you can come up with a plan together that will take the pressure off you for a period of time. Your work identity is also an important part of you and your family, so think carefully before you decide to give it up.